Is Anyone Listening?
Have you ever felt that people are not interested in what you are saying? Oh, my, that has happened to me more than a time or two. “Is anyone listening to me?”
Talking is more then just mouthing words. For others to listen to us requires more of us than that. For our talk to have an impact on those who listen, we must be aware that other forces place weight on what we say.
What are these other forces?
So glad you asked. The forces that increase listening appeal in others are values we shape in private. What we do in private has public consequences! I have 3 examples, though they are not the only ones, but are important ones. These values add an invisible weight to our words. These are not mysterious, nor are they hard to obtain. We can do this! That is, if we want our conversation to be meaningful to the listeners. Let’s take a look at what I’m thinking.
We cannot, not be an example.
I had teaching tapes, (remember tapes?) which are in the trash now, not because the teaching was wrong, but because of the example set by the teacher.
Apostle Paul told Timothy to “…be an example to the believers…” I Timothy 4:12
Lets be the first to admit our mistake and apologize, asking for forgiveness. We should be specific about what forgiveness we are seeking. When we have done wrong, why not be the man or woman to admit our wrong doing. Don’t hide or run. Stand up, go to the person if needed and ask forgiveness. Most times it will be accepted. Choose to love at all times. We know that love covers a multitude of sins. Wow, that alone is a good reason to walk in love.
This may take some practice, but an attitude of gratitude toward everyone, reaps multiplied benefits. Think of others more than we think of ourself. Make a personal discovery of true compassion. This is the awareness of other’s distress with a desire to help. Let us be the positive ones in a negative world.
Finally we can choose the correct words to lift and encourage people. Turning a negative conversation around to a positive conversation. Do this by looking for the good, alway picking out the jewels in what others are saying. Our words are so important.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who live it will eat its fruit. Proverbs 18:21
What we are communicates far more eloquently and persuasively than what we say or even do. –Stephen Covey in Principle-centered Leadership.
Keeping these values in mind just might increase the number of those who are listening.
“What do you think? Please share your thoughts in the comments.”
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